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		<title>Taking a step in the right direction</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 13 May 2009 00:58:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[So I&#8217;ve been practicing trust these past few days. I spoke to my husband this weekend about a few things, instead of assuming that he wouldn&#8217;t understand and that I&#8217;d walk away more upset than when I started. My little show of faith was rewarded by DH&#8217;s warm concern and support and I was reminded [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=shesgotsisu.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4072993&amp;post=42&amp;subd=shesgotsisu&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>I am untrustworthy</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 08 May 2009 17:52:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have been afraid. I started this blog thinking that perhaps my experiences could help someone else. After making a few posts public, however, I got cold feet. What made me think that anything I had to say would be useful to someone else? What if people judged me? I&#8217;m such a messed up person, [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=shesgotsisu.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4072993&amp;post=35&amp;subd=shesgotsisu&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>I feel guilty because  . . .</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 10 Jul 2008 00:56:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Debbie, my therapist, mentioned during a counseling session last September that almost everything I talk about is steeped in guilt. I thought about it and she is right. I feel guilty to even exist. There are so many times in a day that I re-think whatever it is that I have just done. I dwell [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=shesgotsisu.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4072993&amp;post=30&amp;subd=shesgotsisu&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>This isn&#8217;t old news</title>
		<link>http://shesgotsisu.wordpress.com/2008/06/28/this-isnt-old-news/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 28 Jun 2008 17:09:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Mom, I keep imagining that you must think that I should just get over my childhood already. For god&#8217;s sake, I&#8217;ll be 40 this year! It was so long ago! More of my life has been as an adult than as a child! Just forget about it, stop blaming my life on my parents, stop [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=shesgotsisu.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4072993&amp;post=11&amp;subd=shesgotsisu&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>My brother is my hero</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Jan 2008 16:51:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have one sibling &#8212; my brother who is 21 months younger than I am. For years we have had a warm but distant relationship. He is aware of my &#8220;allegations&#8221; of abuse, but has not acknowledged what happened during our childhood since we became adults. He called me one day in January of this [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=shesgotsisu.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4072993&amp;post=9&amp;subd=shesgotsisu&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>I want DH to be my daddy</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 19 Dec 2007 23:16:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Home on the weekend, feeling very anxious and upset: What’s the matter, Missy? I feel sick to my stomach. I want to go home. We are home. Why don’t you tell me what’s going on. Nobody loves me. I am too much for DH to handle. I know he’s going to leave soon. I just [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=shesgotsisu.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4072993&amp;post=12&amp;subd=shesgotsisu&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Accountability</title>
		<link>http://shesgotsisu.wordpress.com/2007/11/30/accountability/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Nov 2007 23:30:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I struggle with this a lot mom, the idea of accountability. I want to be able to look myself in the eye and know that I&#8217;m not blaming my mistakes on you. Not hiding behind your skirts or letting my childhood be an excuse for my failures. That I&#8217;m not living in the past, that [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=shesgotsisu.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4072993&amp;post=20&amp;subd=shesgotsisu&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Why do you hate the dog so much, Missy?</title>
		<link>http://shesgotsisu.wordpress.com/2007/11/17/why-do-you-hate-the-dog-so-much-missy/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Nov 2007 23:50:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I don&#8217;t know. I see DH sitting on the couch right now, holding that fucking dog like she&#8217;s a baby or his lover, and it makes me sick inside. Truly sick. I feel anxious and upset and like I need to do something RIGHT NOW to make it stop. I hate that he loves that [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=shesgotsisu.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4072993&amp;post=22&amp;subd=shesgotsisu&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>The ABCs of Irrational Beliefs</title>
		<link>http://shesgotsisu.wordpress.com/2007/11/06/the-abcs-of-irrational-beliefs/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 07 Nov 2007 00:02:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Wikipedia does a great job explaining the basics of cognitive therapy, and specifically how one can use the ABCs of Irrational Beliefs to change your thinking and behavior: &#8220;A major aid in cognitive therapy is what Albert Ellis called the ABC Technique of Irrational Beliefs.[1] The first three steps analyze the process by which a [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=shesgotsisu.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4072993&amp;post=24&amp;subd=shesgotsisu&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Changing my B&#8217;s so my C&#8217;s are Healthier</title>
		<link>http://shesgotsisu.wordpress.com/2007/11/06/changing-my-bs-so-my-cs-are-healthier/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Nov 2007 23:56:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[My therapist suggested to me a few months ago that I begin analyzing my beliefs and challenging them using cognitive behavioral therapy. Wikipedia does a good job explaining CBT: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy Essentially, when an event occurs, my beliefs &#8212; the thoughts that I have regarding the event &#8212; cause my emotional reaction to that event. In [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=shesgotsisu.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4072993&amp;post=23&amp;subd=shesgotsisu&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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